What is the quality of the feedback you are receiving?


The Story of Job. – Day 18

When you think about giving or receiving feedback, are there any methodologies or practices you consider in how you deliver it? Do you try the sandwich method where it has to start and end with a positive and then the real meat of the situation comes in the middle? Do you ensure that before you speak you use the T.H.I.N.K. principle: T – is it true? H – is it helpful? I – is it inspiring? N – is it necessary? K – is it kind? Whatever method or model that you use, do you ever consider how it will be/get received by the other person? When you receive feedback, are you observing what technique is being used on you? If they start with something positive are you getting ready for the bomb to be dropped on you when it gets to the inside of the sandwich? If they start with something positive are you waiting for the shoe to drop? Does it make a difference who is trying to give you the feedback? Does it matter if they are someone who has seemed invested and caring about you? Does it matter if they are someone who seemed to not really care or even want to talk before that point? When you receive feedback are you looking for all the queues being used from tone to body language to the actual words being spoken? How do you judge the feedback being provided? Are you able to discern through the Holy Spirit the actual meaning and intent? Are you able to give it up to God to know if it is something that you need to pick up or just leave it alone?

Words have power! We need to use our words wisely! Words have the power to create! Words have the power to tear down! Words have the power to build up! Words have the power to destroy! Words are a gift given by God that we need to be good stewards of! Words have the power to bless! Words have the power to curse! Words have the power to inspire! Words have the power to extinguish! Words have the power to acquit! Words have the power to condemn!


Consider these verses from the AMP translation of the Bible about the importance of how we use our words:

  • Hebrews 11:3 – By faith [that is, with an inherent trust and enduring confidence in the power, wisdom and goodness of God] we understand that the worlds (universe, ages) were framed and created [formed, put in order, and equipped for their intended purpose] by the word of God, so that what is seen was not made out of things which are visible.
  • Proverbs 12:6 – The [malevolent] words of the wicked lie in wait for [innocent] blood [to slander], But the mouth of the upright will rescue and protect them.
  • Proverbs 18:21 – Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it and indulge it will eat its fruit and bear the consequences of their words.
  • Matthew 12:34–35 – You brood of vipers, how can you speak good things when you are evil? For the mouth speaks out of that which fills the heart. The good man, from his [inner] good treasure, brings out good things; and the evil man, from his [inner] evil treasure, brings out evil things.
  • Matthew 12:36–37 – But I tell you, on the day of judgment people will have to give an accounting for every careless or useless word they speak. For by your words [reflecting your spiritual condition] you will be justified and acquitted of the guilt of sin; and by your words [rejecting Me] you will be condemned and sentenced.”
  • Colossians 3:16 – Let the [spoken] word of Christ have its home within you [dwelling in your heart and mind—permeating every aspect of your being] as you teach [spiritual things] and admonish and train one another with all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs with thankfulness in your hearts to God.
  • Colossians 4:6 – Let your speech at all times be gracious and pleasant, seasoned with salt, so that you will know how to answer each one [who questions you].
  • Ephesians 2:1-3 – And you [He made alive when you] were [spiritually] dead and separated from Him because of your transgressions and sins, in which you once walked. You were following the ways of this world [influenced by this present age], in accordance with the prince of the power of the air (Satan), the spirit who is now at work in the disobedient [the unbelieving, who fight against the purposes of God]. Among these [unbelievers] we all once lived in the passions of our flesh [our behavior governed by the sinful self], indulging the desires of [a]human nature [without the Holy Spirit] and [the impulses] of the [sinful] mind. We were, by nature, children [under the sentence] of [God’s] wrath, just like the rest [of mankind].
  • Ephesians 4:25 – Therefore, rejecting all falsehood [whether lying, defrauding, telling half-truths, spreading rumors, any such as these], speak truth each one with his neighbor, for we are all parts of one another [and we are all parts of the body of Christ].
  • Ephesians 4:28 – The thief [who has become a believer] must no longer steal, but instead he must work hard [making an honest living], producing that which is good with his own hands, so that he will have something to share with those in need.
  • Ephesians 4:29 – Do not let unwholesome [foul, profane, worthless, vulgar] words ever come out of your mouth, but only such speech as is good for building up others, according to the need and the occasion, so that it will be a blessing to those who hear [you speak].
  • Luke 4:22 – And [as He continued on] they all were speaking well of Him, and were in awe and were wondering about the words of grace which were coming from His lips; and they were saying, “Is this not Joseph’s son?”
  • Romans 3:13 – “Their throat is an open grave; They [habitually] deceive with their tongues.” “The venom of asps is beneath their lips.”
  • Romans 3:14 – “Their mouth is full of cursing and bitterness.”
  • Romans 3:19 – Now we know that whatever the Law [of Moses] says, it speaks to those who are under the Law, so that [the excuses of] every mouth may be silenced [from protesting] and that all the world may be held accountable to God [and subject to His judgment].
  • Romans 10:9–10 – because if you acknowledge and confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord [recognizing His power, authority, and majesty as God], and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart a person believes [in Christ as Savior] resulting in his justification [that is, being made righteous—being freed of the guilt of sin and made acceptable to God]; and with the mouth he acknowledges and confesses [his faith openly], resulting in and confirming [his] salvation.
  • Romans 15:6 – so that with one accord you may with one voice glorify and praise and honor the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.
  • 1 Peter 3:15 – But in your hearts set Christ apart [as holy—acknowledging Him, giving Him first place in your lives] as Lord. Always be ready to give a [logical] defense to anyone who asks you to account for the hope and confident assurance [elicited by faith] that is within you, yet [do it] with gentleness and respect.

Today’s reading from the book of Job comes from chapter 13:

‘[Job continued:] “Behold, my eye has seen all this, My ear has heard and understood it. What you know I also know; I am not inferior to you. “But I wish to speak to the Almighty, And I desire to argue with God. But you smear me with lies [you defame my character most untruthfully]; You are all worthless physicians and have no remedy to offer. Oh, that you would be completely silent, And that silence would be your wisdom! Please hear my argument And listen to the pleadings of my lips. Will you speak what is unjust for God, And speak what is deceitful for Him? Will you show partiality for Him [and be unjust to me so that you may gain favor with Him]? Will you contend and plead for God? Will it be well for you when He investigates you [and your tactics against me]? Or will you deceive Him as one deceives a man? He will surely reprimand you If you secretly show partiality. Will not His majesty terrify you, And will not the dread of Him fall upon you? Your memorable sayings are [worthless, merely] proverbs of ashes; Your defenses are defenses of [crumbling] clay. “Be silent before me so that I may speak; And let happen to me what may. Why should I take my flesh in my teeth And put my life in my hands [incurring the wrath of God]? Even though He kills me; I will hope in Him. Nevertheless, I will argue my ways to His face. This also will be my salvation, For a godless man may not come before Him. Listen diligently to my speech, And let my declaration fill your ears. Behold now, I have prepared my case; I know that I will be vindicated. Who will argue and contend with me? For then I would be silent and die. “Only [O Lord,] do not do two things to me, And then I will not hide myself from Your face: Withdraw Your hand from me and remove this bodily suffering, And let not the dread of You terrify me. Then [Lord,] call, and I will answer; Or let me speak, and then reply to me. How many are my iniquities and sins [that so much sorrow should come to me]? Make me recognize and understand my transgression and my sin. Why do You hide Your face [as if offended] And consider me Your enemy? Will You cause a windblown leaf to tremble? Will You pursue the chaff of the dry stubble? For You write bitter things against me [in Your indictment] And make me inherit and suffer for the iniquities of my youth. You also put my feet in the stocks [as punishment] And [critically] observe all my paths; You set a circle and limit around the soles of my feet [which I must not overstep], While I waste away like a rotten thing, Like a garment that is moth-eaten.’

Job 13

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Study Notes:

As today’s reading begins we see that Job’s patience for his friends is starting to fade, we start with hearing how all they had discussed about God’s power and wisdom were not beyond Job but were things that he knows and understands because of what he has already seen and experienced. We see how Job then confronts them that he is not inferior to them when it comes to the things of God and how he didn’t like their condescending and unsympathetic words and tone. Job wasn’t put back by the arguments and attacks by his friends in his time of pain and suffering but instead was even more motivated to have an audience with God. Job wants to understand and reason with God what has taken place. Job first speaks out against his friends, the people who were to be his counsel, his advisers, his helpers with the fact that they would have been more helpful and seemed wiser had they not spoken at all aligning to the words from Proverbs which read:

Even a [callous, arrogant] fool, when he keeps silent, is considered wise; When he closes his lips he is regarded as sensible (prudent, discreet) and a man of understanding.

Proverbs 17:28

We see through today’s reading that even in the midst of his pain and his suffering, that Job hadn’t lost his ability to reason and have wisdom. He wants his friends to listen more than they speak in order that they would be able to attend to what he has to say on his own behalf and hear his cries and conviction to God. We see how Job believes that God will reprimand and condemn them for their judgement and motives. We see how he is questioning their true friendship based on how they were treating him during such a low point in his life. We hear how Job is putting his trust in God rather than his friends. We see how just like in a court trial, Job presents his case before he hands it over to God in prayer. We see how in verse 17 he declares it. We see how in verse 18 he brings his cause and his confidence in God for his justification. We see how in verse 19 he speaks to how if he gave up his hope and his faith in God then who would be his salvation? We see how his belief in his own innocence was attached to his faith and if he gave up on one it would be like giving up on the other.

Job was done his rant and reply to his friends and we see how starting in verse 20 that Job starts to express regret or disappointment, to lament and please with God. We hear Job’s cry to God to meet with him in order to end his pain and stop the terror of the experiences he was going through. Job was more concerned with his relationship with God than the pain and suffering and wanted to ensure that his relationship with God, the God he loved and worshiped would be restored.

Today, we have the benefit of the full Bible that includes the New Testament and the hope of Jesus. Without the hope of the saving Jesus and the resurrection, Job still speaks in alignment to what was yet to come when it comes to man dying and buried. We see this in our concluding verse and what is still yet to come. This ailment was eating away at Job’s body like a moth eating away at a piece of clothing.

‘While I waste away like a rotten thing, Like a garment that is moth-eaten.’

Job 13:28

The New Testament speaks to us about the end of our time on earth with verses like:

13 Now we do not want you to be uninformed, believers, about those who are asleep [in death], so that you will not grieve [for them] as the others do who have no hope [beyond this present life]. 14 For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again [as in fact He did], even so God [in this same way—by raising them from the dead] will bring with Him those [believers] who have fallen asleep in Jesus. 15 For we say this to you by the Lord’s [own] word, that we who are still alive and remain until the coming of the Lord, will in no way precede [into His presence] those [believers] who have fallen asleep [in death]. 16 For the Lord Himself will come down from heaven with a shout of command, with the voice of the [a]archangel and with the [blast of the] trumpet of God, and the dead in Christ will rise first. 17 Then we who are alive and remain [on the earth] will simultaneously be caught up (raptured) together with them [the resurrected ones] in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and so we will always be with the Lord!

1 Thessalonians 4:13-17 Amplified Bible (AMP)

And then I saw thrones, and sitting on them were those to whom judgment [that is, the authority to act as judges] was given. And I saw the souls of those who had been beheaded because of their testimony of Jesus and because of the word of God, and those who had refused to worship the beast or his image, and had not accepted his mark on their forehead and on their hand; and they came to life and reigned with Christ for a thousand years. The rest of the dead [the non-believers] did not come to life again until the thousand years were completed. This is the first resurrection. 6 [a]Blessed (happy, prosperous, to be admired) and holy is the person who takes part in the first resurrection; over these the second death [which is eternal separation from God, the lake of fire] has no power or authority, but they will be priests of God and of Christ and they will reign with Him a thousand years.

Revelation 20:4-6 Amplified Bible (AMP)

So where are you at today? How will you respond to the offer from God of grace, mercy, and salvation? Are you ready to lean into all that God has for you? Are you ready to persevere and trust and have your faith built up? My hope and prayer is that You will ask Jesus into your heart so that I will get to spend eternity in God’s presence with you. Are you ready for forgiveness and peace? Are you ready for a hope and a future? Are you ready for a transformation where the old is gone and the new has come? Are you ready to being the journey of knowing right from wrong? Then let’s pray together to invite Jesus into your heart and your life so that His peace which surpasses all understanding can guide you and comfort you, protect your heart and mind in Christ Jesus. If this is the first time you have prayed to invite Jesus into your heart, leave me a comment so that I can rejoice with the angels in Heaven. If this is a re commitment to Jesus, leave me a comment so that I can rejoice with the angels in Heaven. If you are still questioning or seeking, don’t go it alone, feel free to leave me a comment so we can discuss it.

Let’s pray:

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