Our natural tendency when someone hurts us is to use it as a barrier, a wall, a gate back into our lives. We feel they owe us for having done that. Part of the problem is that if we hold onto it for too long it ends up hurting us more than the original incident ever did. It plants a bitter root in our hearts and starts eating away at us from the inside out. It will not only change our attitude with that one person, it can even go deeper if we don’t deal with it to impact our thoughts, our emotions, our relationships, our attitude, and our work. It will become an impediment to forward progress. It will start to impact the ones you love. It will even start to impact your health. “Bitterness or holding a grudge or resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”
The thing is that God’s plan is different,
He wants us to let it go.
If we refuse to forgive, what hope do we have of receiving what we need? To receive from God what He has promised in His Word, we must obey Him, regardless of how difficult it may be.
We must forgive!
Satan is a great deceiver and uses our mind against us. He uses this in the area of forgiveness if we don’t feel that our feelings have changed then we have not truly forgiven. That is a lie. When you decide to forgive someone, don’t let the devil convince you that because you still have the same feelings, you haven’t really forgiven the person. Doing the right thing may not initially change the way you feel, however, that is where faith steps in. You have done your part – you have stepped up and done what God has asked of you, now wait on God for His part which will work to heal your emotions, heal your wounds, make you whole, and change your feelings towards the person who hurt you.
It was incredible when after several months in my life of having God encourage me through song and words of encouragement, I got to the point of fear when He stepped in and spoke to me through the song 7×70 and I broke down and cried and forgave them for what they had done. As I completed my prayer to forgive, these words came to me: “as you forgive others, so I will forgive you”. I prayed for forgiveness and before I arrived at my destination, God had done a work in me. It was like a huge weight was lifted from my shoulders and I could feel the change and transformation as I stepped back into the situation (which hadn’t changed), however, God had changed my mind and my heart and with that my attitude and my work. He helped me to heal and restore relationships that I had harmed through the experience, and rebuild my family time that had been affected by the incredible pain and torment I had gone through.
But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too.
Prayer Starter: (from today’s devotional)
Lord, I choose to forgive those who have hurt me. I release them from their debt, in Jesus’ name. Heal my heart and make me whole.
I thank You Lord for this new day and for all that is within You. I praise You Lord for the incredible truth and love that You have shared with me through this life and for the incredible experiences and joy that has come through them. Lord, You take what the devil plans for evil and turn it around and use it all for good. Lord, when he lied You broke through it and were able to shine the light of truth and produce hope, life, and joy. Lord, help me Lord to keep this truth in the front of my mind so that Lord I don’t allow bitterness to mess up my day or my life, but allow me and help me to forgive and move on for You will take care of the details. Lord, I thank You for the day we are about to have and I ask Lord that through it and in it may You receive all the praise, the honor, and the glory in Jesus’ name. Amen.
Some people had wandered in the desert lands. They found no city in which to live. They were hungry and thirsty, and they were discouraged. In their misery they cried out to the Lord, and he saved them from their troubles. He led them on a straight road to a city where they could live.
Psalm 107:4-7 (NCV)
When we trust God, he is able to direct our way and deliver us through the wilderness of fear and discouragement.